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Erin Bird says...

If you find articles about the life cycles of mid-sized groups exhilarating reading, then you can see a piece I wrote for abfresources.com about the "death" of the 12:30@Eleven ABF (Adult Bible Fellowship) and the "birth" of the current BE[cause] ABF here at New Covenant Bible Church.

However, if you find such articles sleep-inducing, then follow the link right before your bedtime to receive a blissful night of Zzz's.

Here's "The Death and Birth of an ABF."

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Erin Bird says...

I meet engaged couples frequently in my job as a young adult pastor.  Occasionally those couples are living together.  I am convinced that cohabiting (living together) before marriage is not the best foundation for the relationship.  It is usually a difficult conversation to have with a couple that feels in love and "separating" seems like they are hurting the relationship.  But here are some of the reasons I give couples:

1) Living together doesn't keep the marriage bed pure. (Hebrews 13:4) Many couples want their relationship/marriage "blessed" by God, and yet they intentionally live against his commands.  God does beautiful work in the hearts of a man and a woman when they wait to share their bodies with one another - the sexual relationship will actually be better if they wait until after the rings have been exchanged. (Song of Songs 2:7)

2) Living together is practice for an affair.  You are being physically and emotionally intimate with someone with whom you have not publicly exchanged vows.  If you can display this deep level of affection with this man or woman, what's to say you can't do it with the next person who grabs your eye and heart when your marriage/relationship is going through a rough spot?

"But Erin," you protest. "What if a couple isn't having sex?  What if they just live in the same house to save money, but they are saving sex for marriage?  That would erase your first two reasons." To that I say:

3) Living together without sex practices divorce. Most divorces come long before one person has moved out.  The couple usually live in the same home, sometimes even in different bedrooms, while the physical and emotional intimacy has ended. However, they still have to operate a household together.  If the couple has practiced "no intimacy" while sharing living quarters, they set it up for them to repeat that pattern if difficulties appear in the relationship in the future.  Living apart until after "I do" allows a couple to affirm their commitment and longing for each other in all areas.

4) Living together stops relationship growth. The reason my wife and I have date nights, read books on marriage, escape on overnight get-aways, and desire to attend marriage conferences is because marriage takes work.  Because of schedules, kids, work, etc., we slip into only talking about the day to day issues of life and not the deeper issues of our relationship.  The quickest way to stop the growth of a dating relationship or engagement is to live together.  But when you commit to living apart until marriage, you use the time you DO get together more wisely and talk about the issues you need to discuss.  Along with this, you also dream together about sharing life in the same space, which adds to the joy and excitement when you finally join households as "one flesh." (Genesis 2:24)

I have had this conversation with several couples, and surprisingly a number have agreed with me and separated until their wedding. Every couple (and I do mean every!) that has made the decision to stop living together has told me it was one the best things for their relationship and preparation for marriage.

This topic was brought to my attention again this week by a couple of articles.  If you want to read more, try these links out:

Ed Stetzer's research on cohabitation

Relevant Magazine's take on the issue 

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Terr says...

PCI-Media Impact, a New York-based non-profit with 25 years experience using communications for development, is initiating its sixth year of the My Community program on November 2 with an international training on Entertainment Education and Social Marketing in Lima, Peru.

 The 32 selected participants – including radio hosts, journalists, community activists, and professors– representing Mexico, Guatemala, Nicaragua, Colombia, Ecuador, and Peru, will participate in a five-day  hands-on training  and learn how to design, produce and broadcast entertaining radio soap operas that address urgent community needs.

“This year’s training promises to be one of the best,” said Media Impact Programs Director, Sean Southey.  “Between staff, community activists and media leaders, and representatives of current My Community coalitions, we will have representatives from  leading NGOs and grassroots social movements in Latin America coming together to discuss how to create global changes beginning at the local level.”

Media Impact received applications from more than 40 coalitions hoping to participate in the training, of which the top 11 were invited to attend.  After successfully completing the Entertainment Education training, coalitions are then eligible to apply to produce their own radio campaigns. 

During the past twenty-five years, Media Impact has worked with local partners worldwide to produce educational, culturally sensitive radio and television serial dramas that combine the power of storytelling with the reach of broadcast media to address social issues in developing countries.  For the past five years, this approach to social change has centered on the 8 to 12 annual My Community projects.

“We are really excited to meet and train the new coalitions,” says Mike Castlen, Media Impact Executive Director.  “They bring issues to the table that affect their daily lives, like child prostitution, discrimination against indigenous populations, and domestic violence.  We can help them address these heavy issues in an entertaining, effective way.  My Community thrives on this strong local buy-in; our partners develop communications strategies that are enriched by their in-depth cultural understanding and vested interest in driving local change.”

The current My Community projects address a variety of sexual and reproductive health and environmental issues plaguing developing nations.  Most recently, successful projects have addressed rising HIV prevalence rates in Central America, deforestation of rural areas in South America and the importance of demanding civil rights and civic engagement. 

This year, the training will feature a presentation by My Community partner, Asociación Comunicares, a coalition that has, for the past two years, produced a youth-run radio drama, “The Intruder.”  The group will discuss their successful experience leveraging local resources to scale up a community-level program to a national campaign. 

“Comunicares has been a strong partner over the past two years, and we are excited for them to share their experiences with the new coalitions,” says Queta Valdez, Media Impact Programs Officer for Central America.  “Showing the impact their campaign has had will give workshop participants a taste of what they can accomplish in their own communities, and a sense of how effective Entertainment Education tools are in achieving social change.”

To follow the training and receive daily updates, please visit Media Impact’s Facebook Fan Page or its Twitter page.

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Erin Bird says...

(Image via relevantmagazine.com)

Since I work with young adults, some of whom actually read this blog, I thought I'd point those of you in your 20s to an article about "extended adolescence" from Relevant Magazine.

I've been reading for a few years now that sociologists consider adolescence to be extended to age 26 or even to 30. Some are calling it "adultlescence".

For many young adults, the "marker" for adulthood is marriage. But I think it is far more important for someone to be mature BEFORE they say, "I do." I'm of the opinion that God wants us to seek Him and become mature in Christ. And that means giving up childish ways.

And for those worried about giving up video games, toys, and such - what do you think having children are for? ;o)

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pichwahyt says...



Planet Cancer is a much needed and innovative organization on a powerful mission. It’s a community of young adults with cancer helping each other – reminding one another they are not alone in their fight against cancer - sharing their experiences and advice about a wide variety of cancer-related issues and concerns.

The impetus for its formation was simple, and yet very profound:
Relatively few peer groups and helpful resources, such as an organized community, existed for young adults with cancer. The result was many young adults with cancer were forced to cope in isolation with age relevant issues such as: dating, disclosure to potential employers, long-term insurance issues, moving back home, loss of fertility, having to quit school or give up a new career, and other unique issues and needs.

Every year, nearly 70,000 young adults between the ages of 18 and 40 will be diagnosed with cancer in the U.S., representing nearly 7% of all cancer diagnoses. The young adults served by Planet Cancer are marginalized in a medical infrastructure that does not have a “home” for them, lacking specific resources geared toward their unique needs and issues. Survival rates for this age group have not improved in over 30 years, yet the medical community still doesn’t recognize young adults as a specific group in need of unique medical, emotional and psychosocial tools. 

So, what does Planet Cancer want you know? Young adults DO get cancer. They DO have unique needs. Their survival rates are NOT improving. Don’t let them fall through the cracks for ONE MORE MINUTE.

Thank you Heidi, Robin and Paul for stepping up and making a real difference in the lives of others.

Help Pich Wahyt shine the light on Planet Cancer and spread the word. To learn more or get involved, visit: http://www.planetcancer.org.

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Terr says...

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Our Young Adults continue to work with HopeStreet Glebe - mainly supporting the monthly BBQs behind the Op Shop. Recent developments also include assisting elderly/physically challenged people in the Glebe housing estate with window washing and furniture/equipment moving.

Julie and Laurie of HopeStreet have run this ministry single-handedly for many years. Our Young Adults have been a welcome blessing: through the support of the team, Julie was able to take leave from the September BBQ to spend personal time with her daughter - who had just given birth a baby!

Thanks to team members Kirryn and Toby, Davina, Mark, Eleni and Chris, Veronica and James for lovingly supporting the people in Glebe through this HopeStreet program!

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Erin Bird says...

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Erin Bird says...

It seems the economy is hitting the young adult population pretty hard.  According to the New York Post, the Labor Dept. declares that the unemployed young adult population has hit a post-WWII high.  This often translates into more young adults living at home after graduating college, which was reported by CNN Money this summer.

Thanks to Kent Shaffer at Church Relevance for tweeting these thoughts and links.

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Erin Bird says...

                               
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LeAnn and I hosted the BE[cause] ABF at our house tonight for a fun night of Bunco (ABF stands for "Adult Bible Fellowship").  Most people think of Bunco as an "old ladies game," but it is a great mixer game, so you could to interact and play with lots of different people.  There was much cheering whenever someone got a Bunco (rolled 3 of the same number that matched the number for the round), and tons of laughter all night.

It has been a ton of fun seeing this BE[cause] group grow since it's launch in March.  We were missing several BE[cause] members from the party because they are in Kosovo getting ready to return from being gone for two weeks serving at a camp.  We are praying for their safe return on Tuesday.

In the photos you'll see a few people with their "prizes".  We gave prizes for first Bunco, top 3 with most wins, top 3 for most Buncos, and "top" 3 with most losses.

It was fun having people in our home again and I'm already looking forward to our annual Christmas Open House. :o)

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