There is such a simple solution to the toilet seat problem. You likely know the one I'm talking about.
The solution is everyone ALWAYS put the cover (men/women), or the seat and the cover (men) down after use, closing the toilet completely.
This way, woman and men start by lifting the pieces of the toilet that they need for their business.
And needless to say, remember to wash your hands.
There. See how easy that is?
I think it is important to pay attention to how you present yourself to other people, particularly to a woman.
One way to think about it is to consider the five basic senses. They are:SIGHT
HEARING
SMELL
TOUCH
TASTE
For example, you are about to meet up with a woman you like. These senses all happen in a matter of seconds - if you are just the tiniest bit prepared, your greeting will go very smoothly.
When you approach a woman, she sees you. What do you want her to see as you walk up to greet her? That you are dressed appropriately and well groomed? That's a good start.As you get closer, within ear shot, what does she hear you say? Something like, "Hi [name], I'm so glad we could get together. Wow, you look great!" or "How are you [name]? I am so happy to see you again". Say something simple and sincere, or try something creative, or be complimentary, and always be polite.So now you're close enough for her to smell you. Everyone has different preferences, but to start, let's shoot for smelling clean, as in, recently bathed. I prefer a man to wear extremely light cologne or none at all. I think the light scent of a man's soap is perfect. Needless to say, if you are smelling foul, you stand to miss out on the full effect of the next two senses.For this greeting, let's say that you are beyond a handshake, and you go in for a short hug. What does it feel like to touch you? A woman will notice a nice fabric texture such as a soft cotton, cashmere or suede. She will also appreciate the right placement of your arms/hands and amount of squeeze. If you have questions about "the right amount" then ask one of your girlfriends to practice with you. It's a quick lesson - trust me, they will want to help.
Now, what happens if a kiss in order? Or what if she surprises you after your amazing hug with a kiss? How do you taste when that happens? A bit minty, like you were prepared? Hopefully not like liquor or cigarette smoke.***
After this greeting goes well, I can assure you that most women will want to dive deeper into these senses with you. Likely, she will want to see you again, will want to listen to what you have to say, and will want to smell, touch and taste you. How fun will that be!
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Women are exploited
So these women in these movies, they are there to get men to spend money on DVDs or websites subscriptions. The whole industry functions on the need most men have to be stimulated by sight. The money comes from these men and goes into the pockets of the people who make and act in the movies. It's like vampires complaining that they are being exploited by all that blood that living human beings have.
“Perverse” and “unnatural”
In what sense? As long as there have been orifices people have wanted to stick things in them. It's an instinct. If a penis can fit in it somebody is going to try to get one in. People have genitals. This is natural. Healthy genitals, when handled properly provide pleasure. People hook up for casual sex all the time. Right now there is somebody near you getting laid and they are probably doing it with somebody whose last name they will forget within a week. There are also people with cameras filming stuff. Neither one of these things is odd. Even when you take the position that casual sex is wrong or bad, it's hardly new or rare.
Causes crimes against women
Supposedly men look at women as “sex-objects” because of porn. They dehumanized and thus are open to being used. The problem is that even in places where there is relatively little pornography women are dehumanized. The same crimes that are committed against them ostensibly as a result of the pervasiveness of pornography have always, and will always, be committed against them until they all become genetically engineered cyborgs with vaginas molded from surgical steel.
Harms relationships
Only relationships that were teetering on the brink anyway. Who seriously gets threatened by somebody on a screen? I'll tell you who, women (and, occasionally, men) who are looking to make you the scapegoat for their unhappiness and insecurity, that's who. Porn comes with a social stigma, even among its most ardent consumers. You say your husband watches porn in certain company and he will be tainted for life and you, poor, frail female, will get to look like the victim of a disgusting pervert.
Desensitizes
You get desensitized to the nudity of somebody you see naked every day. Thee are lots of women who appear in porn. Until you get tired of each one of them you won't be desensitized to them. You can lose the sense of shock you had as you were getting your cherry busted to the first anal sex scene, yes, but is shock really why you watch porn? If it is then maybe you are addicted to an adrenaline rush rather than actual erotic depictions. I could be wrong but I don't think sex is supposed to be “shocking”.
For my first post, I would like to credit the name of this blog, Happy Endings, to my dear friend j******. She is an expert at so many things, particularly witty written bits and making me laugh. xo
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With the adding of the new features, Twitter has become a much more powerful tool for people wanting to establish meaningful relationships online. So what are the essential things to do in order to connect with people better on Twitter? There are 15 techniques that seem to work particularly well for me. Let’s go over each of them quickly in the following section. More posts on the Twitter category
Therefore you have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges. For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things. We know that the judgment of God rightly falls on those who practice such things. Do you suppose, O man–you who judge those who practice such things and yet do them yourself–that you will escape the judgment of God? Or do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God’s kindness is meant to lead you to repentance? (Romans 2:1-4 ESV)
We are reminded of the quote, “You cannot judge a book by its cover”. Well that is true and untrue. Many people will make judgments on a book by its cover. They will look at the title, the artwork, the endorsements of the book itself, and the author. But what really determines a book is not the cover, but the content. The same is true with the Christian life.
In this passage we are reminded that how we judge others we will ultimately condemn ourselves. We see a long list of sins and vices in the previous chapter and it is easy for us to look on others with scorn or disdain because they might be guilty of one or more of these items, but we would never do such a thing. Have we dared to ask ourselves the question of ourselves before we condemn another?
Romans 2:2 reminds us that the ultimate standard of judgment is truth. The issue is addresses in verse 3, in summary, “How can you judge others for doing what is condemned in Scripture and you are guilty of doing the exact same things?” A hard question for all of us to answer! Paul then poses another question in the next verse, “Do you despise the goodness of God as displayed in forbearance and longsuffering?”
We want people to be patient and kind when dealing with our shortcomings but do we grant the same reciprocally in dealing with others? Before we pass judgment on anyone else regarding their shortcomings, we must ask ourselves the question, “Are we guilty of the same thing that we are about to condemn?”
This is an example of the entries provided in the e-newsletters. This post strikes deep to the core of my sinful pride because of it points me to the verse "Do you despise the goodness of God as displayed in forbearance and longsuffering?" How can His disciple be merciless and impatient? He will be measured with the same stick he uses to measure others around him.
Think, think, David. May your heart be good soil to grow this deep. Let your sin go.
I am in Florida visiting the family I was born into. It is such a different world from what I do my best to live in. They are well-meaning people… and I have so little in common with them.
Our family reunions are toxic food served on disposables with many conversations about babies, marriage (of course only between a man and a woman) and church.
I love them and yet I feel so sad whenever I come visit. I am not quite sure why my Karma had me born into this family.
I show up with my reusable container, utensils, and mug every year. Every year I bring salad which almost noone eats and some other veggie dish which this year they liked and ate a majority of (roasted root vegetables.) Every year, I do my very best to model the solutions, and I am pretty sure I have never once made an impact on them and the way they live their lives. And it breaks my heart and pretty much makes me feel hopeless about the state of our world.
This time, I was blown away when a relative asked, “Are you dating anybody? Guy or Girl?” WOW!!! I think they are pretty much the only one in my family who is totally cool with whatever my answer to that would be. The rest of my family, if they read this blog, and know that I have dated both men and women and am in favor of all people being supported in loving relationships regardless of gender, would have a problem. And I would never be allowed to bring a girl I was dating home to meet them. That is a sin and although “they love the sinners, they despise the sin.” Which translates to a huge portion of my life is not acceptable to them.
A long time ago, I let go of the belief that I “should” do anything for or with my family of origin. I have nothing to prove there. This isn’t my “work” as many people say families are often about.
I have been so incrediblly blessed and humbled to my core by my family of choice that I have met and deeply connected with over the years. My “aunties” in Northern California and my Mendocino family and my “Framily” in the Bay Area. These are the family I go to to be renewed, supported, and loved in the way I so deeply long for.
My family of origin, I love and they, for the most part, love me. Only thing is, that love is held together by a tenous string of inauthenticity. And that makes it hard for me to be here.
My immediate family of parents and siblings– we too are very different. Somehow, we make it work– probably because we almost never see each other and only speak on rare occasions. We have almost nothing in common other than blood.
I do love them all. But I feel like an alien in my family who walks around covered in a shield in order to deal with the experience.
I wish them all the very best blessings that the Universe has to offer. I wish them joy, love, peace, and health. And I am extremely grateful for when I can be back with my family of choice. They show me what family can truly feel like.
Here’s to famlies everywhere– every description, every gender relationship, every shape, form, and possibility. May we all be connected to families that renew our spirits– whether they be families of origin or families of choice.
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In the past weeks I’ve decided to clean out my closet. I’ve realized that I am in that social timeline where I need to make new friends – no necessarily wiping out all the friends I have, but a few. For example: the ones that are overly involved with their significant other where there is no time to hang out [without the significant other].I can’t really say that I dislike all people who are in serious relationships (or so they think) but I dislike the ones who are too much into each other where when I call to hang out, one of them doesn’t want to and so the other half will absolutely not go out. I find it extremely pitiful. I believe people should lead different lives and not be totally infatuated with one another.I’ve been in a couple of long-term relationship, but my very first LTR had to be with Hope. With her, I had a hard time letting go. I always wanted to be around, hang out, and go out together. When it was time for her to meet new friends (she started this 20 something group friends thing at the center) my insecurities grew to the max. Not only was I going to miss having her around on Tuesday nights but also I had to deal with the issue when her friends met up at bars/restaurants sans moi. I actually learned from my relationship with her. I learned that life doesn’t always revolve around your other half. There is in fact, some time needed to get away from one another. This is one of the lessons I carried with me to my next LTR. I always gave her space and in return I was happy to see my friends and go out without having my girlfriend glued to my waist.I suppose that is what my friends who are currently in LTR have. I can’t talk for a lot of them, but I am pretty darn sure that it is their first “real” relationship. I guess with every failed shot, I will see them once a year.Having friends who are highly drawn in with their significant other can be draining. I can’t just call a friend and ask them to come out because they have to confirm with their partners. It is one of my pet peeves. I repulsively hate when I do all the calling or texting and trying to make plans only to find out that they are “staying in” (not too sure if that’s a special code for leave us the fuck alone, we are making sweet-oh so sweet loving)Maybe I am taking this too seriously, maybe I am the one who has a problem and I don't realize that time spent with the love one are precious (which I think they are) but I do think that time spent with friends is also precious and memorable and FUN (selfish me!). Maybe I need to get a new crowd – a "I'm in a LTR but I have a life" group where we can run wild in the wee hours of the morning and not have lovers to tame us – calling/texting every minute of the night just to see what we are up to.Really – can they be any more understanding?
