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Tastes like good ol' domestic violence!
(I honestly found this in my pantry at home.)Tastes like good ol' domestic violence!
(I honestly found this in my pantry at home.)PeaceKeeper’s campaign, “Make-Up Artists For Peace” asked some of the countries leading celebrity make-up artists to donate their favorite make-up tip in support of PeaceKeeper’s work to end violence against women. Recently, we asked Sam Fine, celebrity make-up artist for women like Tyra Banks, Brandy, Aretha Franklin, Halle Berry, Alek Wek, Naomi Campbell, Destiny’s Child, and more. Here is what he suggests:
Use foundation to achieve a second skin appearance
After applying foundation (either liquid or cream), take a facial tissue and separate each layer. Using one layer, gently blot, removing any excess oil. What you're left with is skin that looks perfect without the mask-like appearance of foundation.
Use two foundation formulas – liquid and crème – to achieve a flawless complexion
Using liquid foundation and tinted moisturizer is great, but they don't have the ability to cover dark marks or heavy discoloration. Fine suggests using a stick foundation along with your existing foundation in select areas where more coverage is needed. Now you'll be able to hide blemishes without feeling like you're wearing a face full of foundation!
Build beautiful lashes
Begin by wiping the excess off the wand/brush and applying a thin coat of waterproof mascara. Go on to do something else - get dressed or make a cup of coffee. Because waterproof mascara dries quicker, when you return to apply your second coat, you'll notice each lash stands out and attracts mascara like never before!
Create the perfect brow
Fine suggests using two pencils to create the perfect brow; one in a shade lighter than the natural brow color and one a bit darker than the natural brow color. First, using the lighter pencil to softly define and fill, serving as a guideline for shape, then return with the darker pencil to deepen the color and define the shape. This helps to insure that you'll have a beautiful brow that doesn't look drawn on or fake.
PeaceKeeper Cause-Metics is an enterprising philanthropic brand which funds women who have been indentured or who live on a dollar a day. This is called Beauty For Humanity – Good For You & Good For The World! Now That’s Beuatiful™. To learn more about Sam Fine’s work, visit www.samfine.com. To learn more about PeaceKeeper’s Make-Up Artist For Peace Campaign visit us at www.iamapeacekeeper.com.
PeaceKeeper launched a 75% organic lip gloss with the UNIFEM – The United Nation’s Development Fund For Women and its Trust Fund To Eliminate Violence Against Women – to raise awareness about UNIFEM’s important global work. UNIFEM is the women's fund at the United Nations, dedicated to advancing women’s rights and achieving gender equality. It provides financial and technical assistance to innovative programs and strategies that foster women's empowerment. UNIFEM works on the premise that it is the fundamental right of every woman to live a life free from discrimination and violence, and that gender equality is essential to achieving development and to building just societies. UNIFEM works in the following thematic areas:
* Enhancing women’s economic security and rights
* Ending violence against women
* Reducing the prevalence of HIV and AIDS among women and girls
* Advancing gender justice in democratic governance in stable and fragile states
PeaceKeeper took its UNIFEM lip gloss around the United Nations and invited women of all nationalities and skin tones to try it on and it looked STUNNING on everyone! This is true! Dirty Blondes, Brunettes, Olive Complexions, Women of Color and even Classic Blondes love its sheer burgundy tone. This gloss also looks AMAZING over any lipstick color!
PeaceKeeper Cause-Metics is an enterprising philanthropic brand which makes donations to women’s health advocacy and urgent human rights issues. PeaceKeeper funds women who have been indentured or who live on a dollar a day. Therefore, what is important about PeaceKeeper is that we source raw ingredients like rosemary and spearmint from third world farmers and give micro-credit loans to the families of those farmers. This is called Beauty For Humanity –Good for You & Good For The World! Now That’s Beautiful™.
To learn more about PeaceKeeper and to order PeaceKeeper UNIFEM Gloss visit them at www.iamapeacekeeper.com.
By Paula Hirschoff
I recently traveled to Mongolia, drawn by legendary stories of Mongolian women’s strength and resilience developed through a nomadic lifestyle and harsh climatic conditions. Half the population of 2.7 million is still nomadic or semi nomadic, although many are now migrating to the outskirts of Ulaanbaatar, the nation’s capital, where they live in gers—traditional round, one-room dwellings.
“Nomadic women have to do so much!” said B. Onon, program director for the Gender Center for Sustainable Development, one of three Global Fund for Women grantees that my friend Darlene Kunze and I visited in Ulaanbaatar.
We observed the typical woman’s workload. For our hostess Sarantuya, a day’s work comprised milking a herd of cows, producing a wide variety of dairy products, and handling the horses and goats, while holding down a job in the nearby capital. “She’s superwoman! Grandma too,” remarked her friend.
“Centuries ago Mongolian women had rights and privileges not accorded to most East Asian women,” Onon explained. “For example, they owned property and could divorce their husbands. Gender relations were more equal in Mongolia.” On the steppe, women rode horses, shot arrows, and according to a popular folktale about a princess, even wrestled. This legendary daughter of a king bested all male opponents, which allegedly led to the current requirement for wrestlers to wear open vests, thus proving they do not have female breasts.
The history of these powerful Mongol women is about to become better known with the publication of The Secret History of the Mongol Queens: How the Daughters of Genghis Khan Rescued His Empire, by anthropologist Jack Weatherford in February 2010. Mongol men are famous for conquering most of the known world, but women ruled the empire during much of the thirteenth century. These daughters headed the kingdoms along the Silk Road and created the commercial networks that knitted Europe together with Asia, according to Weatherford, who also wrote Genghis Khan and the Making of the Modern World, about the rise and impact of the great conqueror. These Mongol women excelled in commerce, but some also put on the helmet of war and led their troops to victory in battle.
The spirit of these queens of the past still lives today on the Mongol steppe, Weatherford said. History forced Mongol women to be strong and to act independently—traits that they bring to the sometimes daunting challenges of the globalized society. “They may lack the material means and some of the tools of more technologically sophisticated societies, but they stand second to none in their strength, spirit, and determination,” said Weatherford, who lives in Mongolia for half of each year.
The two decades since Mongolia emerged from Russian dominance as a fledgling democracy have been good for women in some respects and not so good in others. As civil society has taken root, women’s rights have had more attention; the growing rate of poverty, however, typically has affected women more than men. Moreover, 70 percent of women employed in rural work are not paid and have limited control over assets. For example, women own only 16 percent of livestock and rural housing. Another discouraging statistic is the proportion of women in Parliament has fallen from 25 percent in 1990 to 6 percent in the last election. These statistics come from the Gender Center’s database of research and gender-based analysis on Mongolian women.
A Modern Struggle
Today Mongolian women are fighting to rebuild that historic equality by strengthening civil society, and GFW grantees are solid blocks in the foundation. The National Center Against Violence, for example, which runs five shelters for battered women and their children, has taken a lead role in advancing women’s rights. According to D. Enkhjargal, an attorney and its director for the past 12 years, domestic violence was kept secret — a private family matter — in the decades under the Russians. The Center is fighting to expose the problem, noting that one-tenth of Mongolian women suffer from domestic violence at some point in their lives.
Almost since its founding in 1995, the National Center has been building a legal basis for prosecuting cases of domestic violence and protecting its victims. Armed with thorough research of records from courts, law enforcement organizations and hospitals, the staff raised public awareness and advocated for a domestic violence law. Government officials were initially skeptical, protesting that domestic violence was not a problem in Mongolia, and claiming that the Center was trying to introduce “western culture” to the country. By 2003, however, the Center’s advocacy had paid off. The government officially acknowledged its support of the draft law against domestic violence and in 2004, Parliament passed the law unanimously.
The Center’s work extends beyond domestic violence. In July 2008, the government declared a state of emergency and cracked down on demonstrators who protested election irregularities. Some children and people with disabilities were jailed; a number of detainees were tortured and denied food and water. Women and children were held for days with adult men. All media, except the government television were shut down. Calls to the Center’s hotline demanded, “Why aren’t you doing something?! Aren’t you the national center against violence?”
“We decided we had to do something,” said Enkhjargal. Joining a coalition with some 20 other human rights groups, the Center’s staff and lawyers took a lead role in defending the victims of human rights violations and documenting the abuses that had taken place during mass arrests and detentions.
In the midst of work at the national level, The Center Against Violence continues its advocacy for battered women, as we learned when N. Pvrevjav, coordinator of the shelter house network program, took us to the Madeleine Albright shelter, first funded when the former U.S. Secretary of State visited Mongolia in 1998. The shelter had 18 beds for women and children, a private room dedicated to counseling victims, and a large sunny living room filled with books and toys for the children. In addition to running shelters, the Center Against Violence also trains police, counsels perpetrators, and leads annual national campaigns against violence.
The Center also has a group of lawyers who provide pro bono defense in cases that come to court. The work can be grueling and dangerous. Last November, the entire staff was deeply affected when one of the attorneys died under suspicious circumstances while working on a contentious case.
The Global Fund for Women remains the chief source of support for the Center’s operating costs, according to the director. Other donors give money for projects with specific goals usually designated by the donors themselves. The Global Fund, on the other hand, allows grantees to decide for themselves how to spend the funds.
The second GFW project we visited—the Gender Center for Sustainable Development—also challenges official policy. In addition to its research function mentioned previously, a core mission is to provide access to education for the most vulnerable children. The Center documented a gap between government statistics and its own research regarding the number of children attending school in two neighborhoods. Of 800 families, the official statistics indicated that only two or three children between the ages of 7 and 17 were out of school. The Gender Center’s research, however, revealed the number was ten times higher. Then the staff interviewed the families to learn why the children were out of school. Some of the boys had gone out to earn a living, while the girls were caring for younger siblings or relatives who were ill. Surprisingly, girls are more likely to attend school. More girls than boys are enrolled in high school, and nearly 60 percent of university students are women. This is partly because boys have more options for employment, including joining the army, herding the family’s livestock or driving vehicles.
The Gender Center’s follow-up actions followed a dual track—making educational policy recommendations to the government and offering informal education to the children. In addition to the headquarters in the capital, the Gender Center has a branch in a ger district located close to a major garbage dump. There the Center provides basic literacy and computer classes for children from very poor families, children with disabilities, and the children who scavenge at the dump.
Princesses—All of them
Some girls drop out of school because they become pregnant. These are the girls served by the third GFW grantee that we visited in Mongolia— The Princess Center for the Protection of Girls and Young Women’s Rights.
The name harks back to that legendary princess who won the wrestling contests. Why do they call it the Princess Center? “Every girl should be brave, like a princess—without fear—like the daughter of a king,” C. Undrakh, the director, told us during our visit to her office.
Undrakh founded the Center in 2003, shortly after she earned a degree in social work (a new field in Mongolia). She noted that her mother, a lawyer and non-governmental organization (NGO) activist, influenced her to create an entity that would address urgent social problems. Her internship with the National Center Against Violence (see above) also shaped her choice of career path.
The center is the only NGO in the country focusing on single adolescent mothers. Counseling pregnant teens on reproductive and sexual health and providing them with vocational training are two of the Center’s major services. The Center runs a hairdressing salon where some of the girls find employment. It also has a project in which the girls decorate pullovers with beads and sequins and sell them. It operates a hotline that advises them on abortion, HIV/AIDS, and other reproductive health issues. Mongolians tolerate the idea of abortion during the first trimester of pregnancy, she said, and AIDS is not yet a major problem in Mongolia, with a total of only 58 cases so far.
Each year, the Princess Center focuses its work on one of the nine districts of Ulaanbaatar (six in the central city area and three on the outskirts of town). Much of the work is done through girls’ clubs run by volunteers who are university students majoring in social work. The clubs continue after the year of intensive services ends, and some 20 percent of the young mothers continue to contact the Princess Center for mentoring.
“We measure our success by attitude changes—whether the girls become more self-confident and acquire the skills that will prevent them from future risks such as additional unwanted pregnancies,” said Undrakh. The Mongolian birthrate is climbing, along with the rate of teen births, she added. The average Mongolian woman has 3.5 children.
At the Princess Center, as at the National Center Against Violence, the staff are grappling with social problems that disproportionately harm women. The Gender Center for Sustainable Development is providing the tools in the form of gender research, analysis, and policy recommendations. In the process, these organizations strengthen Mongolian women by building on a tradition of independence, leadership and power wielded by Mongol women of long ago.
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Insurance companies have used the excuse of "pre-existing conditions" to deny coverage to countless Americans. From cancer patients to the elderly suffering from arthritis, these organizations have padded their profit margins by limiting coverage to patients deemed "high risk" because of their medical condition.
But, in DC and nine other states, including Arkansas, Idaho, Mississippi, North Carolina, North Dakota, Oklahoma, South Carolina, South Dakota, and Wyoming, insurance companies have gone too far, claiming that "domestic violence victim" is also a pre-existing condition.
Words cannot describe the sheer inhumanity of this claim. It serves as yet further proof that our insurance system is broken, destroyed by the profit-mongering of the very companies who's sole purpose should be to provide Americans with access to care when they need it most. In 1994, an informal survey conducted by the Subcommittee on Crime and Criminal Justice of the United States Senate Judiciary Committee revealed that 8 of the 16 largest insurers in the country used domestic violence as a factor when decided whether to extend coverage and how much to charge if coverage was extended.
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Additional Information:
American Bar Association: http://www.abanet.org/domviol/statistics.html
Department of Justice, Office of Violence against Women http://www.ovw.usdoj.gov/
National Coalition against Domestic Violence http://www.ncadv.org/
National Center for Victims of Crime http://www.ncvc.org/ncvc/main.aspx?dbID=dash_Home
It's not easy to spot the abusers of domestic violence, it's because they are hiding. More so, they are hiding their victims, by forcing the to wear clothes that can hide the marks of being abused. The abuser could be anyone... he could be anywhere too.
Abuse is never an accident. A person totally have the control over his/her will to hurt a partner. Being drunk, stressed-out due to work, or under the influence of recreational drugs doesn't validate the abusers' actions. Abuse is an intentional act to gain control over the other, no matter what the cost is. Be it physical, sexual, emotional or psychological abuse, it is damaging and can ruin a relationship, one's mind, body and soul.
Abusers often have low self-esteem. They feel better about themselves when they are able to control someone. It gives them a false sense of power and might. They do not take responsibility for their actions. They are very immature. They may even blame the victim for causing the violence. In most cases, men abuse female victims. It is important to remember that women can also be abusers and men can be victims.
Abusers have different backgrounds, different experiences that made them who they are. Abusers are similar in only one aspect, that is, their choice of controlling their loved one in whatever means. There are many tactics used by abusers. He can be manipulative in the sense that he distorts his controlling behavior and pass it off as concern. He may reason that he is controlling because you are not a good decision maker. He controls all of the finances so you cannot move freely as you please.
When it comes to expectations from his/her partner and children, the abuser is way too unrealistic. The abuser will expect them to perform in accordance to his/her own way, and it will give the abuser the right to punish the victims if not performed accordingly. The abuser is jealous even to the own family of his/her victim, added to that is the accusation that the family is a menace to their marriage.
The victims are always to blame, that's the point of view of the abusers. The abuser accepts no mistakes from his end, it's always on the end of the partner, making the victim his perfect and convenient scapegoat. Abusers force their victims to do sexual activity it prefers, irregardless of the partners condition. Whether the partner has just given birth, or ill.. the abuser doesn't give a care. If not satisfied, the abuser may assault the victim.
In using foul language, the abuser is at its best. Belittling the victim in front of other people. Whether relatives, friends or just acquaintances, the abuser doesn't seem to care and call you stupid just to show he/she have the control and the victim is always at the service. Serve three meals a day, clean the house, and satisfy him/her at night, that's what the abuser wants in that particular order. Threatening you that he/she will take away the kids, just to get what he/she wants. Selfish and inconsiderate, the abuser that is.
The abuser of domestic violence uses many tactics, those mentioned here are just some. Help the victims put an end to this cycle, join Patti Austin's Blue Movement at PattiAustin.com/blue.
Cases of domestic violence can be against of any age, sex, race, culture, religion, education, employment or marital status. Anyone can be a victim... anyone can be a prey. Even children who are not physically harmed, can be victims. Emotional and behavior problems may incur by children living in a home where there is domestic violence.
Who are the victims? (i) A person of color. You may be afraid of discrimination. You may be afraid of being blamed for going out of your community for help. You may feel hopeless because of the stigma that domestic violence happens only to women of color. Therefore, you will not receive any help. (ii) A lesbian, gay, or transgendered person. You may be afraid of having people know about your sexual orientation. You may be afraid of prejudice. You may think that the law does not acknowledge homosexual relationships. (iii) A physically or mentally challenged or elderly. You may depend on your abuser to care for you. You may not have other people to help you. You may believe that you deserve the abuse because you are somewhat a burden to your partner. (iv) A male victim of abuse. You may be ashamed and scared that no one will believe you. You may be afraid that people will think less of you and undermine your manhood. A person from another country. You may be afraid of being deported. You may be afraid of not being treated fairly in courts. (v) If your religion makes it hard to get help. You may feel like you have to stay and not break up the family. You may believe that it is a sin in the eyes of God to leave your partner. You may think that by forgiving your abuser will help him change. (vii) A teen. If you are a teen, you could be at risk if you are dating someone who: is very jealous and/or spies on you like breaking into your e-mail account and mobile messages; will not let you end the relationship or break up with him; hurts you in any way, is violent, or brags about hurting and bossing other people around; puts you down or makes you feel bad about having your own life; forces you to have sex or makes you afraid to say no to sex; abuses drugs or alcohol; pressures you to use drugs or alcohol; has a history of bad relationships and blames it on their exes. (viii) A child in a violent home. Most children in these homes know about the violence. Parents may think children do not know about the violence, merely because they are not in the same room when it happens. Children often know what happened. They do not have to be eyewitnesses per se. They may hear the pounding and screaming. They may feel the tension between you and your husband. Sometimes, they blame their selves for the violence. Children living with violence are helpless, scared and upset. (ix) If you are being stalked. Stalking is repeated harassment that makes you feel like a prisoner of fear. A stalker can be someone you are acquainted with or a complete stranger. They often bother people by giving them unwanted attention. This can take the form of phone calls or gifts, or following people by going to where they work or live. This is a threat not only to you, but to your family as well.
If you are teenager and you feel being abused by a person you are dating or anyone from your school or neighborhood, seek help. Ask help from your parents, friends, or anyone you can trust. Don't think that you are very isolated. You won't be able to stop your perpetrator if you just keep it to yourself. It can be even hard for you to hide and avoid from your abuser if you stay in the same school. There is help, all you need to do is ask.
Violence in the home is dangerous for children. Scary noises, yelling and hitting is not an acceptable environment for raising a child. They are afraid for their parents and themselves. They fear of being taken away to live in homes or shelters. Children feel bad and small for they cannot stop the abuse. If they try to stop the fight, they are putting themselves in harms way. They can get hit by things that are thrown or weapons that are used. Children are equally damaged by domestic violence, just by seeing and hearing the violence.
Children who frequently witness violence at home may have the inability to communicate with others, they may prefer to isolate themselves so they can stay away from experiencing the same in the hands of other people. Children living in homes where there is an abuser may have sleepless nights, for they are afraid to wake up alone or see a parent hurting and keep on trying to endure the pain. For children, there's no way to move away from the problem on their own, they need help.
Stalking is a crime. People may think stalking is not dangerous because no one has been physically hurt. Stalking is serious crime and is punishable by law. Stalking often turns to physical violence. Put a stop to it before it does. There is help. Find out how to get a Personal Protection Order (PPO). It is wise to inform the police. You can make a case by keeping track of what the stalker does by: (1) telling the police every time the stalker makes contact with you; (2) keeping a book with you at all times so that you can write down the stalkers contacts; (3) saving phone messages from the stalker; (4) saving letters and gifts from the stalker; and (5) writing down information about the stalker, like the way they look, kind of car they drive and license plate number.
You can call, Common Ground Sanctuary: Toll Free 248.456.0909, 800.231.1127 or HAVEN: Toll Free 248.334.1274, 877.922.1274, for more information on how to get help.
Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence. We need to act now. Join Patti Austin and support her Blue Movement to put an end to domestic violence at PattiAustin.com/blue.
This YouTube film starring Kiera Knightley highlighting domestic violence as an issue is shocking and upsetting. But more depressing are the comments that accompany the video from the YouTube 'community'.