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Copy-Paste: Ways to Spot Talking Brick Walls

P.S. My drafts aren't going so well and since it's been a while since I posted anything, this is just another filler to occupy this blog for awhile.

Note that I'm not going to copy-paste the whole article so click the source here if you want the full article.

Futility:

"You make a statement and it will be turned around."

Example:

"You forgot my birthday."

(cries) "You are right. I should have put all this pain aside and focused on your birthday! ...sorry."

Tip:

Even as you are hearing the words you get the creeped out sensation that they really do NOT mean they are sorry at all - but since they’ve said the words you’re pretty much left with nothing more to say. Either that or you suddenly find yourself babysitting their angst!! Under all circumstances if you feel this angle is being played - don’t capitulate! Do not care take - do not accept an apology that feels like bullshit. If it feels like bullshit - it probably is. Rule number one - if dealing with an emotional blackmailer TRUST your gut. TRUST your senses. Once an emotional manipulator finds a successful maneuver - it’s added to their hit list and you’ll be fed a steady diet of this shit.

Note: Source example felt too long winded to be realistic so I removed some parts.

Reciprocation:

"If you ask them to do something they will almost always agree - that is IF they didn’t volunteer to do it first."

Tip:

If an emotional manipulator said YES - make them accountable for it. Do NOT buy into the sighs and subtleties - if they don’t want to do it - make them tell you it up front - or just put on the walk-man headphones and run a bath and leave them to their theater.

Note: Anyone who has interacted with online trolls know that it's generally a bad idea to try confronting a manipulator up front (unless you have most of the cards on your side) so I do feel that this is bad advise but it is what's written in the article.

I'm sure some of you might point out that this isn't directed at trolls and I don't want to prolong this article since it is just a placeholder that doesn't require any of my opinion to stand by itself so I'm going to stop at "I feel this is bad advise".

Putting words in people's mouths:

#1

"If you find yourself in a relationship where you figure you should start keeping a log of what’s been said because you are beginning to question your own sanity --You are experiencing emotional manipulation."

#2

"They can lie so smoothly that you can sit looking at black and they’ll call it white - and argue so persuasively that you begin to doubt your very senses."

#3

"Over a period of time this is so insidious and eroding it can literally alter your sense of reality."

Tip:

Keep a log of the words that have been said.

Note: ...but don't turn into this

Guilt Licker:

"Most of us are pretty conditioned to do whatever is necessary to reduce our feelings of guilt." - An emotional manipulator is a great victim.

"They inspire a profound sense of needing to support, care for and nurture. Emotional Manipulators seldom fight their own fights or do their own dirty work. The crazy thing is that when you do it for them (which they will never ask directly for), they may just turn around and say they certainly didn’t want or expect you to do anything!"

Tip:

Try to make a point of not fighting other people’s battles, or doing their dirty work for them.

It's All My Fault. T_T Me! Me! Me! Always Me!!!:

"If you call them on this behavior they will likely become deeply wounded or very petulant and call you selfish - or claim that it is you who are always in the spotlight. The thing is that even tho you know this is not the case you are left with the impossible task of proving it. Don’t bother - TRUST your gut and walk away!"

It's ALL YOUR Fault!:

The scam of hook-you-in-and-make-you-sorry-for-me: Initially you may perceive this type of person as very sensitive, emotionally open and maybe a little vulnerable. Believe me when I say that an emotional manipulator is about as vulnerable as a rabid pit bull, and there will always be a problem or a crisis to overcome.

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David Letterman Victim of $2Mil Extortion Plot in Exchange for his Sex Secrets

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Swiss Banker Blackmailed BMW Heiress

Germany’s richest woman and heir to the BMW car empire has been spared an embarrassing court appearance after her playboy lover admitted to defrauding her of millions of euros and attempting blackmail with intimate footage of their encounters.

Helg Sgarbi, a Swiss former investment banker, confessed in a Munich court on Monday to having defrauded Susanne Klatten, a member of the reclusive Quandt dynasty, and three other wealthy women of more than €9m ($11.3m). He was sentenced to six years in prison.

The case has made headlines in Germany ever since Mrs Klatten went to police to expose Mr Sgarbi, 44, after he demanded €49m to prevent a secretly recorded video of their tryst being leaked to the press, colleagues and her husband. Mrs Klatten told Financial Times Deutschland in November 2008 that she had decided to call in police “in a moment of clarity”.

“You are now the victim and you must fight back,” she said. By the time police were called Mrs Klattten had already handed Mr Sgarbi a cardboard box containing more than €7m in bundled €500 notes to help him pay-off a fictitious Mafioso whose child he claimed to have injured in a traffic accident.

Prosecutors alleged that Mr Sgarbi, who worked for Credit Suisse in the 1990s and speaks six languages, seduced a string of married women “with high criminal energy” in luxury spa hotels across Austria and Switzerland. After defrauding these women of millions of euros he is suspected of channelling some of the funds to an accomplice, who is under house arrest in Italy and is alleged to have connections to an obscure cult.

Police investigators described Mr Sgarbi as a smooth operator who knew exactly how to win the trust of the women he seduced. He told them he was a "special Swiss representative in crisis zones", which enabled him to flit between the women at short notice and with very little explanation. Mrs Klatten, a member of the Quandt clan who is worth £9.25bn according to the Forbes rich list, was allegedly his biggest conquest.

They met at an exclusive health resort in Innsbruck in July 2007, allegedly beginning an affair in the south of France the following month, and later meeting in a Holiday Inn in Munich for an encounter which either Sgarbi or an accomplice is believed to have filmed.  Source.

Mr Sgarbi did not reveal the whereabouts of the missing funds or the video tape on Monday but told the court he “deeply regretted” the events and wished to apologise to the women involved. Mrs Klatten is the world’s 55th richest person, with a fortune of $13.2bn, according to Forbes magazine.

Although she has always tried to avoid the public gaze, Ms Klatten’s savvy as an investor recently has seen her draw more attention than any of her siblings. Alongside her 12.6 per cent BMW stake, for years she held 50.1 per cent of Altana, a German chemicals and drugs company. In 2006 Ms Klatten seized the opportunity offered by buoyant stock markets to push Altana into selling its underweight drugs unit for €4.5 bn.

Ms Klatten received €2.3bn as a special dividend in spring 2007, a cash pile that she decided not to re-invest immediately given first signs of an economic downturn. She waited almost a year to put €300m into Nordex, a German wind-turbine maker, and launched a €910m offer for the 49.9 per cent of Altana she did not own in late 2008, the company’s share price having halved in the previous year of economic woes.

Source.

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